1.
Icebreaker: Play Pictionary with words from Proverbs 31
Scripture.
2.
Teaching: Respect
Why do you think the Bible tells
children eight times to honor their parents? It’s even one of the Ten
Commandments. Exodus 20:12 says, .Honor your father and mother.. Obviously God
thinks honor is a pretty important thing for
children to learn. But honor isn.t just for kids. The Bible uses the term honor
over 200 times and encourages it in all relationships. It is one of the secrets to good
relationships.
Show pics of different ways of
disrespect and let children see them and talk about disrespect. (Kids rolling eyes, sticking out their
tongues, cold shoulder etc.)
What makes an employee valuable? It’s
not just that he can do his job right. It’s
because he adds something more. His good attitude is
contagious. He can see what needs to be done
without being asked. He’s an encourager. That’s
honor. The employer who finds a worker like that
has found a treasure.
What makes a student stand above the
rest? She turns in her paper on time and when the teacher looks at it he says, .Wow,
this student did more than what’s expected. I’ll
give her an
A. Doing more than the bare minimum
is honor.
If we will learn honor and respect it
will help us get along better in their families, better
students, better friends, and of course you will be a better wife one day.
Bring a bottle of perfume and spray a
little in the air and ask children what it smells like. Do you like that smell?
Why do people wear perfume? Because they
want to feel special. Enjoy the perfume and offer to put a little on each child
or have a couple different kinds for children to smell. Read John 12:1-8 and
use what you learn and some of the ideas that follow to tell the story to the
children.
Once there was a woman who had some
very expensive perfume. It was worth a lot of money. Maybe she even saved for a whole year to buy
it. The story comes from the Bible in
the gospel of John.
Jesus. friends had a special dinner
just to honor him. Martha, Mary, and Lazarus each honored Jesus in a different
way. Lazarus sat and talked with Jesus, Martha served the meal, and Mary gave
Jesus a special gift. Mary wanted to
show Jesus how much she loved him so she put the special perfume right on his
feet. I.ll bet he had the sweetest smelling feet in the whole town, don.t you
think? Mary wanted Jesus to know how important he was to her. She was treating
him as special. She was treating him with honor.
There are
different places in the Word where we find the word respect and we are to
respect different people.
Children to
Parents: Lev 19:3 Each of you must respect his mother and
father
Wives for
husbands: Eph 5:33 and the wife must
respect her husband
Husbands for
wives: 1 Peter 3:7 Husbands in the same way be considerate as
you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and
as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder
your prayers.
For elders:
Lev 19:32
Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your
God.
For
employers:
Eph 6:5 Slaves or
employees obey your earthly masters with respect and fear and with sincerity of
heart, just as you would obey Christ.
1 Tim 6:1 All who are
under the yoke of slavery (or have employers) should consider their masters
worthy of full respect, so that God’s name and our teaching may not be
slandered.
Titus 2:18
Slaves, (employees) submit yourselves to your masters with all respect, not
only to those who are good and considerate, but also to those who are harsh.
Have the
children apply respect by handing out the following sheet of showing respect
and having the children practice them.
Show honor for others with your
words. Have girls act out the skit below
and discuss not using sarcasm in our words.
Matthew: Hey Susan. I really like that picture
you drew. You.re a good artist.
Susan: Well, it.s about time you said
something nice about me. (sarcasm)
Matthew: I say nice things all the time. You
just don.t listen. (arguing)
Susan: Well like I am sorry. Who made you the boss? (sarcasm)
Matthew: Did you like the story I told in
Sunday School today? I.m a great storyteller. In fact,
I.m good at everything I do.
(boasting)
Susan: You don’t have to brag about
it. (sarcasm)
Matthew: Yeah but then I had to help the
teacher clean up after craft time. What a mess! (complaining)
Susan: I like to help our teacher. I am teacher’s pet.
Sarcasm is just the opposite of
honor. Don’t allow sarcasm to creep into
your words. Sarcasm will pull you into
the boxing ring when in fact if you will
choose to reply with honor you will extinguish the fire. Honor puts out fires before they begin.
Pass out handout.
Different
ways to show honor
1. Introductions of yourself and others
In a group, extend
your hand and introduce yourself.
“Hello my name is
Tricia Yanney.”
(Hopefully they will
give you their name as well.)
In a group introduce
others.
Always say the lady’s
or elder’s name first
Hint: adults before children, ladies before men
“Mrs. Yanney, this is
Emily, Emily this is Mrs. Yanney.”
“Dad, this is my
friend Danielle, Danielle, this is my dad Mr. Yanney.”
It shows honor to
refer to an adult using a title like Miss Kirsten or Mrs. Loofe, or Pastor or
Professor. Children are not on the same
level of authority as the adult. Calling
them by their last names or with a title will help children remember who is the
adult. Mom and Dad shows honor as well
recognizing them as their authority.
2. Compliments go a long way in showing respect,
practice at home, finding things for which you can praise others.
3. Preferred Seating: always offer the best seats to elders and
ladies. The front seat of the car, the
most comfortable seat or the easiest to get into, the head seat at the table,
etc.
4. Standing:
for adults, when they enter the room, do not continue playing and ignore
adults, acknowledge them and greet them before continuing your play.
5. Including others: always stop to invite others in your play or
conversations never get exclusive or cliquish and leave others out.
6. Look people in the eyes, especially adults
and use your eye contact to show attentiveness when talking to others.
7. Help everyone but especially the elderly and
children-
Children helping adults:
- With preparation for meals or parties
- With clean up
- Carrying things
Children helping
their siblings: tying shoes,
entertaining for mom when she is on the phone or in conversation.
8. Respect for homes:
Don’t wander around, do not open the
refrigerator, ask for directions and permission to use the restroom.
Respect furniture: glasses on coasters so you won’t make a ring
on wood tables, and couches and beds are not for jumping or playing rough on.
9. Phone etiquette: Identify yourself, when you answer the phone,
for the caller’s benefit, “Yanneys, this
is Emily” or “Yanney’s residence.” When
you call others you can say “Hi Mrs. Yanney this is Amelia, may I speak to
Emily?” Remember, “can” means am I able
(why yes you are able to) but “may” asks permission.
10. Please, thank you, excuse me, and Yes Maam,
No Maam.
11. No loud noises, loud music cell phones
ringing in church or meetings.
12. No listening to I Pods or talking on the
phone, stop take out the earplugs and show attentiveness to show respect for
others who are trying to talk to you.
13. Dinner Parties:
- When invited, ask what you can bring.
- If you are told not to bring anything, take a hostess gift to show respect, like a pretty soap, candle, hand towel, etc.
- Compliment the hostess, on her home, her food, etc.
- Look to the hostess to begin eating (also wait for everyone to be seated and served their food)
- Napkin and one hand in lap.
- No talking with full mouth.
- No eating with mouth wide open.
- No smacking your food.
- Say, “Please pass the rolls,” instead of reaching for what you need.
- Salt and pepper are a couple, they stick together for ease locating them on the table.
- Only positive conversation, no rude or gross talk at the table. Never critique the food or say, “I hate broccoli.” Do your best and eat what you can and tell the hostess what you do like. If they ask you if you would like something, “No thank you, or I don’t prefer any,” is much better than, “Yuck.”
14. Asking permission to do something, never in
front of your friend, always ask your parent in private. This respects you parent, lets them think it
over and make their decision without pressure, and respects the friend to not
to have to explain why you many not be able to do something.
15. Never leave a party without saying, “Thank
you for inviting me, what a fun party,” to the hostess. Do not just sneak out, or leave without
saying thank you. The importance of
thank you notes and how they show gratitude and respect.
In Christ,
Trish
